Although we tend to think that other people can hurt us with their words, the truth is, it’s not what people say that hurts; It’s what you tell yourself after they’ve stopped talking.
Here is a powerful statement that I learned from Jack Canfield that I share in my seminars:
No Matter What You Say Or Do to Me, I’m Still A Worthwhile Person
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Self Esteem. Everyone benefits by increasing their confidence and developing a stronger self esteem. It’s the core structure to anything that you attempt in life. It determines how willing you are to risk going for what you want. It’s the difference between success and failure.
Last year I created a self esteem program for Elementary school aged kids called, “It’s Great to Be Me,” I developed it after years of working with various groups of parents, boys and girls and understanding the need to instill confidence in our children.
In the program, I included much of what I learned from studying with Jack Canfield, the leading expert in self esteem development programs.
One of my favorite things that I often discuss is the power of words. As a kid, you’ve probably heard, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never harm me.”There’s actually quite a lot of truth to that little rhyme.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, nobody can make you feel badly without your consent.” The reason for that is because only you control your thoughts, feelings and the pictures in your head. Basically you run your own brain by having the ability to do those three things.
Although we tend to think that other people can hurt us with their words, the truth is, it’s not what people say that hurts; It’s what you tell yourself after they’ve stopped talking.
Here is a powerful statement that I learned from Jack that I share in my seminars:
No Matter What You Say Or Do to Me, I’m Still A Worthwhile Person
It’s a simple but very powerful statement. In my seminars, I pass out paper to the students with only this statement printed on it. Then I tell them to repeat it after every statement I make. I explain that we’re going to test it out by shouting out nasty things and then we’ll follow by everyone reading what is written on the paper.
I start them off by saying something like, “”You’re stupid, and then I lead them to read the empowering statement, and then I say something else on the order of a put down that one of them may have said about another like, “Duh, don’t you know how to do that? and then I led them to say the feel-good statement. Once they get the idea of how it works, I want them to put their signature on it so that they really get it in their bones. I encourage them to come up with nasty things that have been said about them. Then in response to those, everyone repeats, “No matter what you say or do to me, I’m still a worthwhile person.”
The transformation I have seen with the kids was amazing. After they did this exercise, they ended up beaming and glowing.
This is how it works. These words are like an antidote to the hurtful junk that you hear each day. Imagine being in a situation where you are subjected to being intimidated by someone who is criticizing you and being nasty, then just let their words roll over you as you repeat the “No matter” mantra to yourself over and over again.
Just like I did with the kids, test it out on yourself. Just let your self talk rip and listen to what goes on inside. After that, repeat the statement, then repeat it and keep on going. It will create a real calming, buzzy kind of feeling.
That day I found myself repeating the statement to myself over and over from the time I walked out of the school all the way to my destination, about 15 minutes. Over that course of time, as I drove, I teared up, I laughed, I smiled and I ended up feeling really amazing. Today I use it often whenever I have a negative thought that has some cling to it.
I’ve found it to be incredibly empowering and so have the kids. Let me know how it works for you
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