The mind/body connection is a powerful thing. Do you realize that our thoughts and our bodies are like two sides of the same coin, connected at every level? When you do one thing, it affects the other.
But do you know the simple ways that this relationship could be affecting your life? Here’s a question to think about–
Do you ever feel like your body is trying to tell you something?
I’d like to share my insights into a physical problem that I’ve been having and maybe it will trigger some awareness for you.
Finally Seeing Things More Clearly:
My Eyes Have It
For the past 2 years, I’ve had an on/off eye infection that has been creating a lot of discomfort for me, most especially over the past couple weeks and through the holidays.
A couple months ago, when I went to the doctor, she said it was most likely a combination of a few factors; 1. dry eye condition exacerbated by spending too much time in front of a computer, and 2. a local skin irritation.
She prescribed eyedrops to create artificial tears to alleviate the dry eye condition and she suggested that I explore what possible irritants might be affecting the dry patch of skin (excema) under my brow and on my right eyelid. All good ideas, but she neglected to consider the body/mind connection. I wanted to know what emotional connection was associated with my eye frustrations.
Dr. Carol Look and The EFT Eyesight Experiment
Awhile ago I learned that Dr. Carol Look had discovered that our eyesight and our eyes are deeply connected to our emotions. I wrote about this in more detail in a previous post, entitled, “Improve Your Eyesight with EFT: The Eyes Have It.”
I want you to understand how our thoughts and our bodies are connected at every level. When you do one thing, it affects the other.
And when we take steps to resolve emotional issues, our physical pain
and/or discomfort often disappears. I intuitively knew that when I dealt with what I was afraid of seeing, my eye condition would clear up.
But I’m a person that often needs to be hit on the head in order to ‘get it.’ Despite the fact that I’ve been frustrated with the itching, I haven’t done anything to deal with it in any significant way.
Recently I realized that unlike the way that the condition used to be, now I was rubbing my right eye every day, several times an hour to ‘scratch’ the itch.
Bugged at the inconvenience of it all, and not wanting to use the steroid cream that the doctor gave me for the small patch of excema under the brow of my right eye, (that would also sometimes cross over into my left eye), I began to wonder what emotional signicance this held for me.
A quick internet search brought me to an insight that excema is often a manifestation of repressed anger.
Since I use tapping and EFT often for myself in order to clear up the static in my own life, I wondered what might still be unaddressed.
As I began to do some detective work, I realized that the problem with my eye began just about the time that my stepfather, Jorge was put into a nursing home and my mother was finally free of his abusive ways.
Because she wanted to remain in Florida, I found her a wonderful Assisted Living community there gathered a circle of loving and supportive people to care for her needs.
She put me in charge of her money and it was my job to pay her bills and to handle her finances.
Although I didn’t admit it, I was furious at the prospect of writing checks to pay for her husband’s care. Because to my eyes, having sexually abused me when I was a child through my teens, he had already stolen so much from me and my mother and I could not justify a reason why either of us should invest in his comfort and safety.
I was consumed with feelings of guilt and anger and bitterness because I swore that I had already forgiven him and that I should have been past being this petty. but each time I wrote a check to the Nursing Home, it took every ounce of strength that I had to send it. Each month I would tap on the anger and resentment I felt before mailing the check.
As I watched the funds dwindle down, fear began to replace the anger. It became clear to me that unless I resolve this issue by dealing with this unresolved and repressed anger, I would continue to suffer with pain in my eye and scarcity and fear in my heart.
Last week my coach, Beverly graciously offered me a session to deal with my trapped emotions using Dr. Bradley Nelson’s Emotion Code Method. After we were finished, I noticed a profound shift. Curious and wanting more, I sought out several of his videos and did some more release work on myself.
A couple days later, I watched several videos of Robert Smiths’s and I was inspired to try his Faster EFT approach and deal with my unresolved anger issues.
That evening while driving home alone at night, I screamed aloud, “I’m so angry. I hate you. How could you do this to me? I’m so angry, repeating those statements over and over again for the length of the 7 minute trip. The intensity of my feelings brought tears to my eyes and I was crying hysterically. By the time, I reached my destination, I felt as though a weight had been lifted from me.
The next day, driving alone, I repeated the same pattern, venting and screaming. This morning I decided to tap while venting. Then
at the point which I felt clear, I began to repeat the phrase, “It’s safe to. … and I filled in the blank for every situation that is true for me.
And from the freedom and peace that has come from doing that, now I’m open to writing a letter to say my final goodbyes and letting my father go. I don’t know what will happen, but I’m already feeling hopeful about the newfound sense of peace and closure that this decision will bring to my life.
As an aside, I have not had any eye problems at all since last Saturday when I worked with Beverly and she helped me to do my first intentional release of my trapped feelings, helping me to let go of my anger, sense of betrayal and feelings of sadness.
How about you? Is there something going on with your body that you need to look at more closely? Are there people in your life that you think may not make it with you to the end? Sometimes you can create new agreements and set boundaries to create harmony in the relationship, but other times it’s just best to let them go, and detach with love. Only you will know what’s right for you.Maybe that relationship was just meant for a specific reason and not a lifetime. But my advice to you is to listen closely to your body. It doesn’t lie.
Let me leave you with these words of wisdom–Making the commitment to lovin’ the skin you’re in is not an easy path, but it is so very worth it to put an end to all the self hatred and cycle of abuse. Don’t you agree?
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Andrea Amador, The Juicy Woman, Lovin’ the Skin You’re In, Dr. Carol Look, Emotional Freedom Technique, Emotion Code, Dr. Bradley Nelson, Beverly Nadler,
The mind/body connection is a powerful thing. But do you know the simple ways that it could be affecting your life? Here’s a simple question to think about–
Do you ever feel like your body is trying to tell you something?
I’d like to share my insights into a physical problem that I’ve been having and maybe it will trigger some awareness for you.
Finally Seeing Things More Clearly: My Eyes Have It