When you’re obese and you don’t feel good about yourself, you feel like you have to hide. Fear of feeling ashamed of being judged as fat has paralyzed a lot of women who struggle with body image issues. Can you relate? I’d like to share a story of how that stinking thinking has affected me.
Overcoming my fat shaming thoughts and body insecurities to face my fear of heights
In 2015 my family and I went to Ocean City, Maryland for vacation. On the last day I decided to go parasailing with my daughter, Cara to face my fear of heights. The plan was to ride together in a tandem harness. When the boat captain saw my size, he told me that the harness would not support both my daughter and I. I felt so ashamed. I wanted to cry and scream, but more than that, I wanted to prove to myself that I had nothing to fear.
How has this changed my life? Because I grew up around so much chaos living with my mom who suffered mental illness and was attracted to abusive pedophile men, I learned to always anticipate the worst. For years I was estranged from my mother because I harbored so much hatred toward her and blamed her for not protecting my baby brother and I from danger. Jumping at shadows is my natural instinct. I’ve lived in fear for so many years that it’s become normal to me. During quiet times, I have tortured myself with catastrophic thoughts, wondering when my luck would turn.
Now letting go has become something that I practice doing every day. My favorite way of letting go is meditating; every day. How ‘bout you? How do you let go so you can rise above your negative thoughts?
What fun activities do you like to do? And has being self-conscious about your body ever kept you from doing the things you love?
If you’re a woman struggling with bingeing, blues and body shame looking for some support to end your food obsession and overcome your body insecurities, I created a Facebook group just for you. If you have been leaning on food as an emotional crutch, there’s no shame in that. But as your stress escalates, if you have no other way of dealing with upsets other than food, your health will suffer. You don’t have to go down that path. Let me help you make some effortless lifestyle changes. I can show you that there is another way.
If you want to know more about how you can get healthy and lose weight without dieting slowly and naturally taking baby steps, I invite you to join my Facebook group. I’ve just re-named the group, “Baby Steps to Lovin’ the Skin You’re In.” Last Sunday I did a FB Live talking about what to do when you’re facing weight gain and can’t stop eating. Check out the link to join the group here: