Sometimes you just have to roll with the punches. In preparation for a seminar that I am presenting next week in Rockland County in the town of Nanuet, I called up the location to check the number of registrants. Imagine my surprise when I was told that there was no indication of anything listed on the roster for this coming week and that I must be mistaken.
Keeping my cool, I called my contact person for the presentation. I found out that I was posted for 3 seminars and instead of all of them being on the same topic, they were each on different topics. I realized that it is useless to panic and so decided to make the best of a bad sitation and let it go.
In the past, I would have fumed, stomped and yelled, all the while blaming everyone and everything else for my responsibility in the mix up. I goofed, plain and simple. I have to admit it. There were things that I could have done to have prevented this mistake from occurring. Either way it doesn’t really matter. The lessson learned was that it doesn’t help to cry over spilled milk.
I remember my mother saying that when I was a child. What does it really mean in the context of our lives? Perhaps it means that sometimes we just have to be willing to do the best with what we have, move on and be grateful for the hand we’ve been dealt.
I am blessed to be able to coach many wonderful women who have been dealt some pretty rotten cards. I admire and respect them tremendously, each one so strong and powerful in her own right.
I’ve noticed that they all have similar beliefs and values. I’d like to share with you some of my observations of what I find are core elements of their success and strength in life. The women who are able to handle difficult times most successfully have these qualiaties in common:
1. Faith. They have faith in someone or something other than themselves. Their faith guides them like a beacon through the darkness when shadows are cast in their lives.
2. Proactive. They rarely get stuck and spend little time wallowiing in their own mud. They take small baby steps, making incremental and consistent progress.
3. Conscious. They are conscious and aware of their gifts and talents always seeking out the good in people and situations.
4. Grateful. They express thanks easily and effortlessly.
5. Loving. They care deeply for themselves and others, realizing that in order to love someone you must also be able to give love. They consider love as a verb, always acting out of love.
6. Expressive. They are able to say what is in their hearts and on their minds. This seems to lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and nutures them from within.
7. Boundaries. They know how to take care of themselves by setting limits. They realize that in order to say yes to yourself you also have to say no to others.
How about you? What happens when you get knocked down for the count? Do you roll over and play dead or are you like many of my Juicy Women who get up, dust off their knees and get back in the game? Someone once said that the definition for insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
If you are not getting what you would like then perhaps try some of the tips listed above, find a new approach and do something different. Be daring, take a risk, find someone who has already accomplished what you want and follow their lead. In no time at all, you’ll be back ahead of the game leading the band.