It’s important to you to feel beautiful. Isn’t it? I’m sure it is. And I feel exactly the same way. Most women to some degree can relate to having a value around looking pretty. But if you’re overweight, feeling frumpy and dumpy, it’s not always easy to manufacture that sense of feeling good about the way you look because your eyes are just not gonna buy the lies that your head is trying to sell them. Here are some of the things I did to expand my definition of beauty and you can too.
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It’s important to you to feel beautiful. Isn’t it? I’m sure it is. And I feel exactly the same way. Most women to some degree can relate to having a value around looking pretty.
But if you’re overweight, feeling frumpy and dumpy, it’s not always easy to manufacture that sense of feeling good about the way you look because your eyes are just not gonna buy the lies that your head is trying to sell them. Because if you’re thinking of yourself and seeing yourself as fat, you’ll end up feeling miserable.
So if you want to feel beautiful and you don’t, you have to take an inside-out approach to the process to trick your subconscious mind into seeing yourself differently than you already do.
Your subconscious mind is like your internal software that runs silently in the background. It’s responsible for everything you think, feel and do. It’s your filter on reality and that’s why you can only see what it allows you to see.
It’s determined by the things you believe as true. If you’ve been told that you’re fat and ugly, you’ll believe that is true and no amount of compliments will convince you otherwise unless you learn how to visualize yourself and see your body differently.
How I learned to ‘see’ my body as beautiful despite feeling fat and ugly
Feeling beautiful is very important to me and as long as I hated my thighs, it didn’t matter what size I was, a part of me wasn’t willing to consider myself as beautiful. That was my rule and I assumed it was universally true. The truth was I never knew anyone who was overweight and okay with their body as it was.
I didn’t realize it, but now I know that I was caught in a losing game. You’ve got to focus on what you can change and the rest will take care of itself. In order for me to achieve the love and peace I value so dearly, I had to change the way I responded to my thighs. I did this by linking two of my highest values, love and peace to my thighs. That made self-acceptance for me a no brainer. If you ever want to change something quickly find a way of associating it to your highest values.
From my years of NLP training, I knew that being exposed to role models of women loving and accepting their larger bodies could put me on the fast track to success. After an enlightening conversation I had with Kevin Creedon, one of my NLP coaches, I was inspired to seek out movies and find examples of women comfortable with their bodies. As I started watching films showing beauty in different forms, I began to feel more comfortable with my own larger, curvier shaped body.
Movies like Hairspray, The Perfect Holiday, Phat Girlz, Beauty Shop, Disfigured, Queen-sized, and Real Women Have Curves showed me that I could love my body no matter what my size.
I saw beauty in those women, so I wondered, “Why couldn’t I generalize it and see beauty in myself?” It may have taken a bit of tapping before, during, or after watching some of the movies to install the new program but it’s in good and tight now.
Before I had a handle on my newfound curvy confidence, I was faced with the doubt that said, “These women aren’t real. They’re only actresses playing a part. You need to find examples of real women who love their bodies.”
Then just around the same time, in early 2009, I stumbled upon the Plus Model magazine site. That was when I realized that there was a whole goldmine of resources for plus sized women that very few women were privy to. I was dumbfounded as I leafed through the online magazine and read article after article about fashion, movies, events, and so many other wonderful things that opened up my world, expanded my vision, increased my appreciation for my body, and made me feel beautiful inside and out, surrounded by sisterly support. That completely changed my ideas of beauty and made it clear to me that with or without thighs, I’m a very beautiful woman at any size and in my eyes you are too!
Now it’s lovely to finally believe that my husband loves my body as it is, because I can accept myself. His appreciation of it or anyone else’s acceptance for that matter, is just icing on the cake.
Free yourself from the curse. Do a quick internet search and find movies and real life role models that will empower you.
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